What is Addictive Love
A love addict’s core idea is the expectation that someone else can solve their problems, provide unconditional positive regard at all times, and take care of them. When this unrealistic need isn’t met, love addicts may find themselves feeling resentful, and may create conflict in their relationships with others.
Some love addicts find that when not involved in a love-addicted relationship, they are able to care for themselves quite adequately. However, when they become involved, the love addict quickly finds that their self-care capacity steadily declines.
Do you feel the same?
If you feel that you are contributing too much in a relationship, it is not for you.
Placing your heart in their hands
There is a lady I speak with on a regular basis and she is going through this very situation. So, she calls me up and began to tell me her story, I should say refresh my memory because I knew about the special someone who made her feel addicted to his love. From my view, she was completely gone with this guy. During their time a child was conceived and because of an opportunity in another state she left and he ended up getting married, but she tells me now that she has feelings for him after 20 years have gone by. They got together and she mentioned that he was always making side comments about subjects talked about and references he made to the person he married, this made her think she said. This may be how he will describe me to others and she did not like that though, so she decided to back off and see what is happening, but what she did not realize was that she should have thought the idea through and let him stew in his mess. He can always go back to his wife and then where would she be, sad because she let him into her heart again when he belonged to someone else anyways. Never leave your heart in someone else’s hands because 9 times out of 10 they do not guard their heart either.
If you can speak with this person and tell them how you have felt over the years and if the feelings are mutual, remember that the person that you see now has changed so be careful about falling for them too soon. In the same instance, if the feelings are not reciprocated then you move on, do not be sad, this is your freedom because now you can move forward without the What If, in the back of your mind. Be happy. Do not sit on the pitty pot or get depressed, raise your hands in the air and praise God, because what is meant to be will be. You heard the saying, “What God has for me is for me.” That means for you alone so just trust him. People join dating groups or meet on social media or in bars, whatever you find appealing fo for it but be careful and use discernment.
I got your back
When you do find that special person, the feeling that you can count on them if needed or you don’t have to wait a certain time to call or see them (married, never because they have a wife or husband that most men are not willing to leave anyways. Old relationships can spark back up, but the parties involved should be unattached from someone other than you. If you find yourself in this situation, it is up to you whether to stay or go. If you stay you will be considered a side piece or the chick on the side, what say you? Competing for a man’s affection entitles them to treat you in any way they want because you make them believe that their actions are okay, but in fact, it is harmful to you. You want your own Boo, that one that has you back.
Time will tell
How well do you really know a person? Normally people put on an act to catch your attention, but sometimes you get that one that totally fools you. Do you have unrealistic expectations, a motive or some side plan? If so maybe a relationship for you right now isn’t what you need or want.
So, be yourself and most importantly, be honest with others. If the script sounds too good to be true, it is. Do not expect from others what you can not expect from yourself. Also, do not give another human being power over your happiness, this is your choice so exercise the right.
Thanks for reading,